Women Against the Feminist Backlash (CN)

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A few years ago, after a mental breakdown that had been a long time coming I made the decision that I was no longer a feminist because I felt so utterly let down and victimised by women I’d assumed were feminists (due to the nature of the work we’d done together). At the time I was going through another period of acute mental distress as a reaction to my father abusing his new family. I’d been as transparent as I could about it at work but I didn’t feel supported and eventually the toll of dealing with domestic abuse in my own life (along with a myriad of cultural oppressions) whilst trying to prevent it in the lives of many others manifested in a few very bad decisions that ultimately led to my seclusion from society.

Yes, I was guilty of dissociating when my triggers were at their worst. This translated into an anger that I found myself channelling towards other men, a problem considering the people we relied on for justice consisted of mostly men; police, courts etc. I had to bite my tongue when they conveniently forgot a client they didn’t like, or ‘accidentally’ disclosed details of a survivor’s safe house to the perpetrator who then beat her up, handing himself in when the job was done. When I tried to challenge the enablers of these incidents I was reminded of the fact that we needed to keep them on side and I needed to work on my personal and professional boundaries and not react emotionally. I agree that there has to be a certain level of professionalism and diplomacy in business where you’re trying to butter up a client you hope will give you a fuck ton of cash but I felt the public sector had a duty, regardless of their feelings about a person/situation. I was chastised for demanding this; somehow I was the one to blame not the incredibly misogynistic ‘allies’ who revelled in reminding me at every opportunity that they had the power to work well if they chose to.

It was shortly after I became medicated that I began a new relationship with a chap who, in hindsight, was drawn to the fact that I was vulnerable, the sort that proposes marriage before you’ve marked your 3 month anniversary. The kind of guy who’s been taken for a ride by every girlfriend he’s ever had, referring to them as ‘the ex’ (never by name), and somehow gets taken advantage of because he’s such a nice guy and you know how they finish last. Anyway, this dudebro focused on the fact that I was, as he saw it, an ex-feminist. I’d told him about the experiences I’d had with professional fems, how I ceased being a woman the second I set foot into the office and he reminded me of this whenever I expressed fem positive. I won’t deny it, I was angry at that time and agreed with everything he said about the movement and the kind of women involved in it. His fascist dad more or less humiliated me at the dinner table when they had me over for Christmas because he’d seen a bunch of feminist quotes on my Facebook profile and he’d thought I was ‘above that’. This was the man who’d slapped my bottom really hard and laughed raucously at my embarrassment. This was also a man who’d beaten my then fiancé’s mum for the course of their relationship, specifically when she was suffering post natal depression.

As I got better and gradually remembered my self-worth I started challenging the ideas he had for our future. Being in the forces it was expected of me to follow him wherever he was posted. I took issue with this; why was his life plan more important than mine? Frankly I was getting rather sick of feeling like a plug in to someone else’s life experience and was ready for my own script. He also thought it was funny to comment on my past and label me a slag as a ‘joke’. Yeah I’d had more experience than him and this made him feel inadequate but somehow it was my fault he had self-esteem issues. He’d said to me very early on in our relationship that he was only going to say it the once but he thought I was possibly smarter than him and we should never speak of it again. Except he did, every time he wanted to put me down for being a ‘know it all’ or when I scored 30 points more than him on an online IQ test or towards the end, whenever I offered an opinion on anything. I guess that’s why I challenged him as much as I did and why he, one day told me to fuck off, slammed the phone down on me and never called back. I was engaged right up until that phone call but it didn’t really mean anything. As a white cis man he had all the power in that relationship and he objected to any attempts at equality. It was a close shave for me, and the turning point in how I view myself, especially in the context of relationships within a heteronormative patriarchy.

I became a card carrying feminist again.

I felt duped and a little ashamed of the conversations I’d had with him. I’d written off feminism because of the actions of a few gatekeepers of the kyriarchy. With time I was able to separate the bunch of women who’d dismissed me for being culturally strange, for having the audacity to point out inconsistencies in their praxis and for demanding better and the rest of us, hesitant to label ourselves feminists because of the sorts of women most vocal in the movement; the white middle class feminists (and their token WoC).

I’ve written in length about this conflict within feminism. Now we have a counter movement (apparently) #WomenAgainstFeminism and they want the world to know they’re not like those other women haranguing men for rights to their own bodies. Sure these women have the right to identify in an which way they choose, a right feminists have protected but we have to comment on and understand the perspectives coming out of that discussion.

We have to face the fact that some women do believe themselves to be inferior to men and inherently different (biologically and spiritually) which is why they do not object to being treated less favourably. That self-hate is internalised and any woman demanding better is perceived as arrogant and self-interested. Whilst I feel sorry for these women I don’t waste my breath. Similarly there are the slut shaming body shaming /policing women who’ve survived by endearing themselves to the patriarchy, a place at the table as reward for navigating the tightrope to acceptance. If we go back far enough with any of these individuals we’d probably be compelled to show them compassion and empathy but who’s got the time for that?

Of course a huge number of women against ‘feminism’ come from those backgrounds that have been historically sold down the river. They may refer to themselves as womanists, they may refuse to label themselves but quietly continue doing the sort of work that feminists do; in their homes and communities, demanding better from boys and men.

If feminism had been more inclusive then maybe more women would ID as feminists. If patriarchy eased up on the backlash we might gain momentum but then we would win and the menz don’t want that. This is evident in the many ways men target and harass women online; making our cyber spaces unsafe and leaving us open to attacks and threats to kill.  They do this to us because they are afraid we are making an impact and they want to shut us up by using an age old tactic to silence women; the risk of physical/sexual harm. That’s the only real advantage, generally speaking, that men have against women, this fear of male violence that we internalise from a very young age that controls us for the course of our lives. Of course they would object to a bunch of women battling to end male violence; they enjoy the control it gives them. Sure they’re going to mock us for believing survivors of domestic and sexual abuse regardless of whether the disclosure fulfils the criteria patriarchy has set out on what it means to be a victim. They’re going to make fake profiles and bait other feminists in a bid to catch them out; causing ructions between opposing factions so we’re too busy fighting each other to fight them. Except I don’t think they’ve realised yet that we can multitask for reals.

We may not call some other feminists friends (or even ‘feminists’ for that matter) and we might fight them day in and day out but given a choice I personally would still take a TERF for my team than an MRA, if for no other reason than female solidarity pisses them off. So there’s a contingent of women hellbent on winning favour with the menz they prefer to those gossiping snarky women, it’s no different to the girl who liked to hang out only with the boys at school. The one who was not like all the others; she was witty and intelligent and pretty but also low maintenance and strong enough to carry her own bags. In fact that girl was me. I have been that female as a fully grown woman too. It’s a lonely place; one that exists because you’ve been forsaken and treated badly by people you thought would get you. It’s reactionary and childish. It makes you feel powerful, to set yourself aside as somehow enlightened and who wouldn’t want to feel like that when the message society is constantly drip fed about free thinking autonomous women is that they’re just a bunch of lesbians intent on ending the human race with their morning after pills and disrespect for the sanctity of marriage and ownership and obedience.

For the record, if I ever have kids I want to stay at home and look after them. As a feminist, this is my right to choose. I advocate reproductive rights and access to abortion but I probably wouldn’t have one myself now. I want to conceive the ‘old fashioned’ way; with a man whose job it will be to provide. I LIKE doing chores. Y’see it doesn’t matter what I think about someone else’s life choices (or what they think about mine) because I am not living that life for them (and it’s none of their business). I live my life and despite my experiences (and hopes for the future) am proud to call myself a feminist.

..The intersectional kind (for those who missed that memo).

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CN: 50 Shades of Wrong

The first time I saw Mr Grey I knew it was the beginning of a queer little crush I knew most people would probably not understand. He was unnecessarily rude to his new secretary, but only to the untrained eye. Following a stay in a psychiatric hospital the female lead character Lee Holloway takes steps to reconnect with society and goes through the motions; finding herself a job and a man to settle down with. She’s invited to an interview for a secretarial post where she meets her new boss Mr E Edward Grey. Despite her limited proficiency for the job he employs her and over the course of the film their flirtations centre on her submissiveness and willingness to do practically anything he asks of her. He is initially perplexed and tests the boundaries of how far she is willing to go but quite quickly they are interacting with each other in what could be described as a consensual BDSM relationship.

Lee is also in a relationship with a childhood friend who bores her sexually. Her attempts to make him understand that she’s not strictly ‘vanilla’ end with frustration and a resignation to the role she must play within that dynamic. As he humps away for posterity, with his eyes closed and his hand outstretched from the sheer intensity of sexual congress with a seemingly consenting individual, she responds in a dull, monotonous fashion, oohs and aahs coordinated with each thrust. I found this scene uncomfortable because she is consenting to sex for his sake and not really considering her own feelings on what she needs from him. He doesn’t even notice she’s not into it and it is this detachment from the activity and from each other, the absence of mutual satisfaction that is worrying, that she allows her body to be used sexually because that is just what we do. Kind of like the dynamic between E L James’ Mr Grey and his victim.

It is no coincidence these two dominant male characters are both called Mr Grey when E L James’ inspiration comes from Mary Gaitskill’s Bad Behaviours on which the popular cult film The Secretary is based. However, the similarities end with their name. James Spader’s Mr Grey isn’t a self-assured perpetrator of violence against women; he controls her day to day movements with her consent because she enjoys the sense of belonging (having been lost and alone up until that point) and the strict parameters within which she can satisfy her impulsions (preventing another trip to a psych unit). Lee has a troubled past with eating disorders and self-harm that they explore in detail. Mr Grey controls her but in a positive way; for example making a pact that she won’t cut herself because she can find that release elsewhere, spanking with a paddle brush for example. She wants him to tell her what she can eat, making the focus of this behaviour sexual instead of dysphoric, not so much calorie counting but the notion that the two of them are in it together to the bewilderment of everyone else “one scoop of creamed potatoes, a slice of butter, 4 peas and as much ice cream as you’d like to eat”. He indulges her, it’s not about him. In fact he withdraws from the relationship when he fears he might have taken it too far and stresses that his perversions are not sustainable long term. He punishes himself, taking out his frustrations through physical exercise. It is then up to Lee to assure him that she is a consenting adult in it for the right reasons, because she enjoys their dynamic as much as him. A lot of the communication between them is unspoken. He recognises that she intends to prove her intentions when she storms in on him in her wedding dress (she is engaged to the boring childhood friend) and plays along, telling her to sit with her hands palm down until he returns. So she does.

E Edward Grey isn’t the type to beat a woman up and rape her without her enthusiastic consent. Christian Grey on the other hand revels in humiliating his victim. Whilst humiliation is a turn on for some people, again this is with their full consent; between two people who can legally consent (minors/vulnerable adults – drunk – cannot, in any circumstance). There are safe words and there have to be rules both parties are aware of before anything happens. Everyone, from victims of male perpetrated violence to practitioners of BDSM have reacted with outrage to this framing of abusive behaviour as acceptable sexuality because of how it has been wrongly presented as some kind of celebration of female sexuality when actually it is about the power and control of women by men through dominance and violence. If this book was as progressive as people like to make out then there’d be a whole dialogue around BDSM and other sexual preferences/fetishes but there is not because usually we condemn women for expressing their sexuality. Patriarchy can hyper sexualise whomever it chooses to but it will not allow a woman to present her own sexual identity as she sees herself because then she’s just a slag.

The key issue that raises concern throughout the 50 Shades series is this matter of consent. Why does he have to get her drunk in order to have his way? He even admits to it. Sex with someone who is too drunk to consent is rape, clear cut. Try and explain this to E L James though and you’ll get the stock response that you’re a troll and have no idea what you’re talking about. Yes, even if you have suffered those same patterns of abuse in your own relationships or happen to be a lifelong enthusiast of consensual BDSM, your feedback does not matter. James believes she is the authority on a subculture she has tarnished with her twisted misogynistic views. At the beginning of this month she even chose to brandish actress Mara Wilson a ‘sad fuck’ for objecting to her badly written trash. What kind of person calls another, a stranger and perhaps a victim of male perpetrated violence (it being a patriarchy) a ‘sad fuck’? This abuse is indicative of the kind of mind that believes women are to blame for the violence they experience, that they should just put up and take it like a woman.

I know a lot of people who practice BDSM and they are possibly the safest and most considerate people to be around. I have myself been curious and experimented and even considered things such as consensual cutting, a practice that many might consider to be abusive even with informed consent but might make a difference to my self-image if I do not self-harm when I am in a negative mood. I am also a repeat survivor of domestic abuse. I know there is a pretty fucking wide line between the two but that’s only because I’ve spent a while learning about consent and owning my rights to my own body as an autonomous individual.

In a world where many women do not even know when they are being raped (having sex with someone who does not want to/cannot consent is rape not ‘non-consensual sex’) is it really any wonder this book has been so successful? For something so badly written it’s sure been pushed as some kind of revelation and I guess it would appear that way in a society that is otherwise shamed and ostracised for having sexual desires that do not conform to the hetero missionary lights off acceptable form of making babies. Of course misinformation around a book which explores those taboo acts We Never Speak Of will be gobbled up by the sex starved masses who are just grateful someone went there in the first place.

Except it’s dangerous when it encourages coercion and manipulation of vulnerable people and you can’t criticise the fact that it does.

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The A-Z of Illusion and Reality – Life in 21st Century Britain (CN)

A is for Asian Grooming Gangs

Illusion – In 2011 Jack Straw highlighted a trend where young white girls were being groomed for sexual exploitation by Pakistani men. He spoke of how white females were considered ‘easy meat’ and how this was reinforced through Pakistani cultural norms. Decent British Pakistanis all over the UK rose to condemn this practice and community leaders promised the culprits would be dealt with harshly. Adil Ray (British Asian of Pakistani descent) spoke for them all on a BBC documentary “Groomed for Sex”.

For Pakistanis who deny this is a cultural practice unique to people from that country alone, we must call them out for facilitating abuse. It’s only fair to assume they are complicit in their silence or calls for balance.

Reality – Sexual violence against women and girls is a global pandemic. Asian grooming gangs has a certain racist ring to it and so it is obvious why this term is so popular among the British however it’s a bit fucking rich considering the horrific scale of abuse perpetrated by the British establishment, and for decades, with the full knowledge of all the agencies involved, including the police, politicians (whose job it is to enforce the laws that bind the rest of us) and journalists.

Take Rolf Harris for example, or The Octopus, as everyone called him behind his back in the good old days. We don’t even know where to begin with the paedophiles in power but good old Tom Watson will let us know.

If you’re white, rich and male you literally get a ‘get out of jail free’ card. All of a sudden young white girls don’t matter. It’s perfectly fine for white men to rape and indecently assault children so long as those dark chaps don’t get away with it. When white men are accused of gendered violence, the victims ought to consider themselves lucky they were among the chosen ones. It is only a violation if the perpetrator is brown.

B is for Britain First

Illusion – “Britain First is a patriotic political party and street defence organisation. Here you can join forces with patriots like you”

Reality – Co-founded by racist (and rapist) Jim Dowson, a former leader of the BNP (he was ejected after being accused of rape), Britain First frighten not only the minorities they wish to terrorise but many white people who recognise the fascist element and many layers of bigotry targeting (apart from non-whites) women and LGBTQs. Dowson is famously anti-abortion and generally anti women’s rights. He does not believe that rape can be committed in marriage and wants to bring back this ‘right’ for abusive men like himself.

If a militant group of Muslims drove around Bexley Heath in an armoured vehicle and were forcibly handing Qurans to decent law abiding whites, the government would call a Cobra meeting and there’d be calls for the National Guard. It is also worth noting they publicise the organisation as a Christian army and fancy themselves on some kind of bizarre 21st century crusade. Some people really do never grow up.

C is for Cis

Illusion – Cis is a slur invented by trans people. The correct term for people who are not trans is ‘normal’. This is all a plot to enslave white middle class women even further. To call us cis when we say it is a slur is misogynistic and bullying. This is patriarchy.

Reality – Firstly, the notion that anyone has structural power over white middle class women (other than white middle class men) is in itself offensive and one of the biggest barefaced lies I have encountered in all my dealings with White Feminism™. Moving on, I am cis. This means I feel comfortable with the gender I was assigned at birth. I do not see what is offensive about being labelled cis unless you are the opposite of comfortable with your assigned gender. This is perhaps a thing people should bear in mind.

D is for Disability

Illusion – Disabled people are just after an easy ride. This country is a soft touch and we are only in this sorry state because of the welfare culture Labour encouraged amongst the lazy and unmotivated. Most people on disability benefits are lying; they’re not usually that unwell. Some of them aren’t even sick. We should cut their benefits to make up for the deficit they created.

Reality – It was only a few years ago most people were in agreement that the banks caused the recession. Instead of holding them responsible, Britain chose to bail them out and make up for the losses elsewhere, for example, leaving vulnerable people without any means of income whilst they are made to jump through a million hoops in order to prove their disabilities to medical professionals trained by the modern day equivalent of a Nazi Germany eugenics program; Atos Medical Services.

UK Uncut were onto something when they suggested that big business just paid its taxes (like the rest of us), then we could still take care of our sick and poor but of course, direct action would result in criminal proceedings. The government silenced any dissent, and continued to propagandise the view that the least fortunate are the ones to blame for all of society’s capitalist failings. The British public dutifully lap it up.

A flower for every person who died within 6 weeks of being declared 'fit for work'

A flower for every person who died within 6 weeks of being declared ‘fit for work’

E is for Empire

Illusion – Britain gave the Great Uncivilised culture and trains. It gave the world Lea and Perrins and PG Tips. Of course India was a brutal place to be if you were Indian (Africa for the Africans, and so on); the natives were positively crying out for liberation. They wanted to be civilised and it was the pleasure of our great nation to show them the way. We taught them how to play cricket and they reciprocated by giving us words for things we couldn’t describe. We also acquired a lot of wealth during this time, trinkets and souvenirs fit for a queen’s head and to this day, we enjoy the unavoidable spoils of war because, well, we won.

Our way of life is the only way of life, by any means necessary, for queen and country. So what if our people are poor and their country is broken? They’ve got white skin and ‘heritage’. God is an Englishman y’know.

Reality – Britain is perpetually yearning for the good old days of Empire when mad dogs and Englishmen ruled the planet and the rest of us licked their boots clean. How many of us were chilled to the core when we studied the holocaust for GCSE history? The thought of concentration camps in which humans perished was unbearable and yet, nowhere in the syllabus was it mentioned that the British were the first to deploy this practice (in modern times) during the Boer war. They invented it.

Great Britain is very proud of its minority world status, its relative wealth compared to the billions who cannot safely access clean water and food for basic survival. This is a nation of people happy to feed its own ego and desires, gorge on the finest foods, flash the cash on unnecessary fashions and ornate junk whilst other human beings with exactly the same internal organs and associated functions go without the bare minimum. Some humans have more rights than most. Large numbers of humans are not even thought to be human. It is those with the least humanity controlling the status of all other humans and this is a huge problem. It is social injustice.

F is for Forced Marriage and FGM

Illusion – Women and girls all over Asia and Africa are bought and sold like cattle, they’re considered subhuman for the mere fact that they are female, and this is in fact part of Islam. They are forced into marriages with much older men who keep them pregnant and barefoot. If the woman resists she will be beaten at the very least for disobeying the will of Allah, though most cases end in honour killings (see next entry). This tradition is barbaric and has no place in a civilised society. Islam is a brutal regime that punishes women.

Similarly, the practice of female genital mutilation is also about controlling women under the protection of their religion and it is violence against women whilst they are still girls. Many will die during and after the process with a significant portion suffering poor health when they begin menstruating and there is a high mortality rate for pregnancy and labour. It’s nothing like male circumcision. This is gendercide.

Reality – Most of the marriages thought of as ‘forced’ by the west are in fact arranged, a practice rooted in many cultures all over the world not especially exclusive to brown and black people. Take the British royal family for example. Princess Diana was not the love of Prince Charles’ life, we knew this whilst they were still married but there’s has always been some speculation as to whether it was in fact forced as opposed to arranged with the consent of both parties. Diana’s role as the incubator for the heir and spare has been explored in great detail and it’s no secret she had a tumultuous relationship with her in laws. What if she had not produced boys? Anne Boleyn was not so lucky. What could be more like a forced marriage than the one that was celebrated by white skinned people everywhere? Also, Diana is dead, let’s not forget that..

Joking aside, forced marriages are a problem for many not just for the usual suspects depicted in the mainstream western media. It is a problem in countries like Russia and Portugal among the peoples native to those countries. This framing of this method of violence against women as being a barbaric tradition associated with brown men alone (which therefore legitimises any wars against them) is outdated and racist and it ensures that many other victims are abandoned because they do not fit the stereotype. Also it is a fact among migrant communities that we would rather protect the people (who look like us) disproportionately demonised by the west than disclose the crimes perpetrated against us and give racists the satisfaction of being ‘right’. Every time a white person jumps to save one girl from a cruel Eastern practice, they silence many more. White saviours do more damage than good and often, this is the intention.

You should probably note the many ways in which racists specifically target women; whether they are murdered for wearing traditional dress or criminalised by governments for again, wearing the wrong clothing, women are easy targets for the brave white menz.

G is for Government

Illusion - We live in a democratic society where we get a say in the way our country is run. We, the people, are born free and our society sets an example to the rest of the world. We need the government to maintain our cities otherwise there would be chaos and all hell would break loose.

Truth – It doesn’t matter who you vote in, they all went to school together and their lives have lead up to their governments. They don’t care about us, they just enjoy the power. We can function without leaders, bosses, judges and Gods. We’re just being told we can’t, every time the government insists we need more CCTV, more police, more restrictions on our free will to ‘save us’ when actually we are being controlled because we are a threat to their power. Nothing more, nothing less.

H is for Honour Killings and Hijab

Illusion – The savages respond to female disobedience with extreme violence, in many cases they will kill the victims so as to preserve the family honour, or their ‘good name’ within the extended family and community. If females put a foot wrong they can be punished under the umbrella term ‘Izaat’ (meaning honour). The same cannot be said for male family members. This also goes for hijab which means ‘partition’ and boils down to segregation of the sexes probably because they believe females to be tempting and impure. The men, however, can behave in whichever way they please, so they target white girls they believe to be ‘easy meat’.

Reality – This is a subject I have often thought about, to try and dispel the myth and untruths portrayed by the west on all things not white. Most importantly one must recognise that words have a huge impact on perceptions and used in the right way can add to a collage of feelings around an existing issue.

Honour killings are used to explain non-white male violence against women, as though the 2 white victims a week of domestic homicide in the UK were murdered for reasons not pertaining to the ego, honour and respect demanded by white abusers. What’s in a word other than centuries of political history and propaganda? It is because hijabi women see this propaganda for what it is that they vehemently refuse to remove their (what the west has in fact enabled) symbol of freedom and resistance to oppression. No one truly believes the west’s attempts to liberate oppressed females by oppressing them and restricting their rights to religious expression and bodily autonomy. Wherever women choose to be a certain way, there will be men telling them they are not doing it right. The intention is to rile the men who ‘own’ the women in hijabs. “Their men target our women for being too easy; we’ll target theirs for being ugly, hairy and mannish. No wonder they need to cover up like that” cos women are property like that.

This report by Tell Mama confirms what I have been saying for years; racism is patriarchal violence, racist violence against women of colour which is perpetrated by predominantly white men. If this is not a feminist issue I don’t know what is.

I is for Immigration

Illusion – Britain is a soft touch for lazy opportunist immigrants who want to invade our country and bleed it dry of all its resources. They get preferential treatment for housing and British citizens are losing out on their benefits cos of all the immigrants claiming most of the money honest hardworking British men and women have contributed into the system. Asylum seekers are driving around in their flash new cars whilst British children are forced to beg food from food banks.

Reality – It was the European elections and the BBC was unabashedly promoting the prospect of a far right party coming into considerable power for the first time since the Nazis. Of course the BBC needed to justify its endorsement of real life fascists so there were infographics to cover the reasons for such a huge shift in the political paradigm. The words being spoken were suggesting that immigration was getting out of control and increasing year on year YET the chart shown actually demonstrated a reduction in immigration. This, for me, sums up the UK media and politicians and the tactics employed to secure votes for political power; barefaced lying and cheating.

Immigration is falling not rising. Students are choosing to study elsewhere for the first time in 16 years, people are not migrating here for work as frequently and asylum cases make up a fraction of the total number of immigrants. Asylum seekers are not even allowed to claim benefits. They get around £40 in vouchers a week, which they must spend on food. They are not allowed to work and so must survive on this meagre amount for an indefinite length of time. Nobody would choose this life as a cushy alternative. The only other real alternative is death and we as a country routinely send people who came to us for help back to this reality. Britain is sick.

J is for Jihad

Illusion – Extremist Islamists are preparing for the 21st century holy war. They have camps set up in all the brown countries and they are training agents to infiltrate our society and annihilate us from within. They pose a danger to our civilised way of life and we must do everything we can to fight this war against terror. Our home-grown terrorists should be easy to identify. Notice any suspicious behaviour from a Muslim neighbour? Perhaps they sit indoors with the curtain closed or own a suspiciously large number of backpacks? Do what’s right, make that call and help us help you win the war on terrorism.

Reality – Jihad is just another example of a word co-opted by the dominant culture to express something it doesn’t really mean, like Izaat for example. Jihad means struggle, and it refers to the control one must have over their own feelings and actions as a Muslim. Sure it includes holy war but the meaning is not restricted to that alone. Even in a holy war, you have the right to defend yourselves but there are rules of engagement. You’re not permitted to hurt a single innocent, an ant for example, or the surrounding shrubbery. Destruction is not part of ‘struggle’.

K is for Kill All Men

Illusion – This phrase is hate speech and incitement to violence against men, murder in fact. It’s dangerous and anyone using the term must be cautioned that they could be committing a criminal offence if it is intended to cause distress and alarm. In a tolerant society there is no call for such a statement and one can’t expect people to understand its political roots if the majority of people are apolitical.  It’s all Sam Ambreen’s fault.

Reality – Over 40 years ago Valerie Solanas wrote the SCUM manifesto (Society for Cutting Up Men) and ever since then women have been cutting them up left, right and centre. Joke, this hasn’t actually happened, we can barely cut them down without a huge drama. I got about halfway through hearing the manifesto (a friend read it to me) when I had to ask her to stop because of the violent transphobia and somewhat naïve understanding of biology (not everyone with a y chromosome is male) but then it was the 70s so I’ll give her that. Up until that point I had listened in rapture at the ways in which Solanas expressed her deep hatred of men, the people who control and abuse women in a society that enables and rewards them for doing so. I recognised her as a survivor; I saw the same wounds in her.

When you’ve been raped, beaten, harassed, stalked, manipulated and used all the ways you can be by men pretty much your whole life and you just do not have the physical strength or capability to give them back like for like, or defend yourself (and we’re always being reminded we’re not very good at this), it’s helpful mentally to turn to words. They can make you feel like you are not completely at the mercy of your abusers/oppressors. The more men whine about how harmful saying these three little words is, the more empowered we feel as women. We don’t need to kill all men, as if that was even possible, we just need to make them afraid that we might (although this might be a tad optimistic). They’re not afraid of those words; they just don’t like the fact that we have the nerve to say them.

L is for Lefties

Illusion – White middle class guilt is everywhere and dragging this country down from the great nation it once was. Under Labour, criminals were given more rights than victims. Lefties have destroyed the once proud and almighty Britain by opening its borders to the lazy and greedy we once ruled. Socialism is a vindictive plot by spoilt Oxbridge types intent on deconstructing the establishment because they’re just jealous.

Reality – They say you should judge a country on how it treats its prisoners/animals/poor. Whilst this makes sense, in recent times I’ve found a better way to measure the state of the collective conscience. You can judge a country on how screwed it is by the comparative wealth of its lefties/socialists and the gap between them and the poorest of the working classes. The disparity highlights the incongruence between what they say they’re about and what they’re actually about.

Champagne socialism is a serious problem in Great Britain. The leftie commentariat, the socialist academics and indeed the people supposedly representing our best interests in parliament have amassed wealth that the true working class proles amongst us cannot access even if we do as we are told. When you have a significantly better than average paid job and a reasonable mortgage, a book deal and at least 4 holidays a year, you lose the right to vocalise on working class issues. You’re too far removed from the truth to make cogent arguments in the interests of the least privileged in society. Your words and actions take on a vulgar tone. Instead why not use your relative privilege to redistribute some of that wealth and amplify those voices that have no chance of being heard? Perhaps resist the urge to opine on the lives and bodies of people you don’t understand?

The descent into fascism is historically enabled by those posing as socialists and it begins with othering, something most people who are not white cis and heteronormative have been subjected to the past few years.

M is for Men’s Rights Activists

Illusion – Protect the male and his interests from violent women who dominate in the boardroom and the bedroom, female harassment of males is at an all-time high. Who will make our sandwiches? Who will take care of our children? Who will do all the ironing? Where will we be without a woman’s touch?

Feminism is a hateful ideology created by lesbians who hate men and want to murder all of us. We must fight this depraved and unrealistic idea they have of equality. They say it’s about equal rights for all but then why call it feminism? Why not egalitarianism?

Protect the male and his interests from the sinister feminazis and their plans to exact revenge for all the ways mankind has allegedly hurt them. They make all those statistics up.

Reality – In the year 2014 it is estimated that 70% of the world’s population of women is or will be experiencing gendered violence and yet MRAs would have us believe that they are at risk of having their needs eliminated by those very women. Perhaps it is the 30% of women existing free from harm that control all men by harassing them in the street and docking their wages if they refuse to play the sex game?

When the menz are protecting their rights and it is that apparent for most people with an ounce of integrity to admit the menz actually hold most of the power, does this mean protecting the right to behave like an entitled dick? Are they fighting for the right to take up two spaces on public transport cos their balls are too big for a little courtesy towards their fellow passenger? Are they protecting their rights to exclude women from ‘gentlemen only’ clubs? Maybe they enjoy the right to control and manipulate women into serving them by chipping into their self-esteem and making them paranoid about other women. Perhaps they are afraid that we might relieve them of their right to cheat on their wives without fear someone might tell the wife if we no longer call those disclosures ‘gossip’? I’d like to do away with ‘bro code’ and rape culture as a transitional demand.

Make those men learn consent; take away their rights to anyone’s body or personal space so they have to work at attracting and keeping female company. I can see why they’re so afraid and why they are even a thing in the first place.

N is for No justice No peace

Illusion – The British justice system is among one of the finest in the world and if you have nothing to hide, you’ll happily allow the authorities to take from you what they need in order to establish your innocence, which goes hand in hand with conformity. We have an equal society where everyone has the right to exist free from harm and there are structures in place to allow for accountability processes. Justice is blind; it doesn’t see gender, colour or race.

Reality – Over 800 people have perished in police custody or following contact from the police. Not a single officer jailed since 1969. We have the IPCC whom we are told to approach if we feel we are denied justice but the revelation that a number of their officers are ex forces does not inspire confidence in the average complainant.

As (politically) black people we notice the stop and searches of young black people wherever we are in the country. We notice that white children are not treated in the same way. We protest at the media coverage when the perpetrators are believed to be black, presumed guilty for no other reason than the colour of their skin and when they are executed in broad daylight despite not posing a threat. Precedents are set when black people are punished in ways that do not even make sense; when they are denied justice because admitting a defenceless black man was murdered for no good reason is admitting that institutional racism led to his demise.

We are encouraged to report our rapes to the police but when we do they tell us we’re lying. Why didn’t we defend ourselves if we were being attacked? ..Why does the alleged perpetrator have scratches to their face? A real victim would be too afraid to fight back.

The tightrope to worthy victimhood is invisible. There’s no sure way of knowing how one must behave when access to justice is reliant on the officer in charge (and he might be racist, sexist, a homophobe).

O is for Oppression Olympics

Illusion – Gosh all these people obsessively disclosing personal details as a way to diminish any responsibility they have for their words and actions, no one cares. I have mental health problems too but you don’t see me going on about it. I wasn’t always this middle class either, y’know. Of course you don’t want to hear about my tragedies cos I’m white and I can afford to eat and heat and holiday. Life wasn’t very kind to me either y’know? I’ve got children and society just sees me as some kind of breeding chook. Who cares that your ancestors were displaced and you’re still feeling the repercussions? My family was Irish originally but the past is in the past.

Reality – Even when white people are poor, mentally unwell and female, they are still not as abused and consequently afraid, as women who are black and poor with mental difficulties. White women do not need to fear violence for their religious dress when they step out in the Home Counties.Working class white women are spoken to with a level of respect when they go shopping whereas brown women (for example my twin sister) are told they are “pushing it” when they politely ask for service. White women do not need to be told to reconsider what they are wearing when they take their child to A+E (after they got something stuck in their ear) in case the attending medics feel the hijabi mother has been neglectful instead of the mother of a lively toddler who just cannot be pinned down.

White people are free to navigate the world without having to plan their interactions within frequently changing parameters. They can just ‘be’. If the same white people calling intersectionality Oppression Olympics (and it is white people) were subjected to the abuse and scrutiny we face on a daily basis, well, actually, it is not even possible to consider what they might do because it’s an impossibility. There’d be white tears, I know only this much.

P is for Patriarchy

Illusion – Men are stronger, smarter, fitter and just better than women at almost everything. Almost because we cannot give birth but if we did, we wouldn’t whinge as much for a start. Patriarchal society has benefited us all in many ways. For example, where would we be without the male engineers, and the male architects, philosophers and law makers? Where would women be without the internet we made for y’all? Male scientists have given us a better understanding of the world. If we weren’t here to protect you, you’d be lost and starving within hours. Those men with tans would steal you away.

Reality – As women we know this is all bullshit. On the back of centuries of male domination where we were told we were weak and feeble, our brains unable to cope with the harsh realities of existence, we were quietly biding our time because witch hunts and being burned at the stake for being a free thinking woman was a surprisingly effective deterrent. Then came The Enlightenment and women’s rights eventually came to the fore. We were ready to die for our cause and that I guess is the turning point in any oppression.

Patriarchy likes to bash back whenever there is a monumental step forward. We are experiencing the latest wave in response to the normalisation of intersectionality. They initially tried to undermine the process by labelling it too academic. Most of us willing to understand understood it so they changed tactics and took to demonising the less privileged proponents of the ideology; the people of colour and those outside of the (very much western) gender binary. The kyriarchy is the contingency plan. White feminism decided that the people who had brought intersectionality to the mainstream didn’t deserve to call it their own and actually tried to steal it from under our noses.

White women can do a better job of convincing everyone they’re doing the right thing instead of doing the white patriarch’s work for them. White women want equality but they want the privileges of whiteness too. They’ll take a little less equality from white men if it ensures white supremacy, and keeps the rest of us beneath them.

Q is for Queer

Illusion – All these pretendbians and fun fems with their twisted views on feminism and womynly solidarity are harmful to the movement and we have no space for people like them. Stop the queerios and their bizarre attempts to have us recognise their humanity and the rights to do as they so wish with their own bodies. If you want to be noticed, fall into line, stop wearing that ridiculous get up and being so greedy; make your mind up and stick to the sex you fancy. Social justice isn’t supposed to be ‘cool’.

Reality – Queer is the radical notion that a person’s genitals say less about them than their beautiful personality. It means falling in love with a person’s virtues first and is less about getting laid than it is about loving fully and honestly. Often radical feminists will bully the queers who are also trans advocates by insinuating we wouldn’t be so supportive if we ‘had to fuck one’. This is a rather strange statement because it reduces love interests to a sexual organ and is kinda the issue radical feminists have had with the patriarchy since the 70s. I’m just seeing a cycle of abuse.

R is for Rape Culture

Illusion – India has seriously fallen from grace. The amount of gang rapes in the last few months alone is shocking and there is global condemnation for the law as it currently stands. Many people, at home and abroad are asking for a maximum penalty of death and this goes some way to show they are taking the matter seriously over there but what are they doing to prevent rape from happening in the first place?

We’ve asked our Indian correspondent to explain why it is Indian men are allowed to behave in this way and they’ve confirmed India has a serious rape culture. We also need to think about war rape and those men in the Congo.

Reality – Rapists are everywhere, from every creed, colour and race. Some places are worse than others though. Under the guise of western liberation and civilised society where “we don’t treat our women like that” Great Britain’s pervasive culture of sexism has raised concerns as far as the United Nations. Their report into the truth of sexual harassment and rape culture confirmed what I have been saying for years; that the illusion we have of women’s rights over here is far more damaging than a culture where rape is accepted, in marriage, for example (a practice only outlawed in this country during the early 90s). In foreign cultures the women being raped don’t think of it as a violation because of the antiquated belief they belong to their husbands. It’s no different to many places in the west, the many millions of cases that no doubt go unreported because of our appalling rape culture in which we make it impossible for women to come forward (for a current example of how victims of abuse are treated, see Vanessa Feltz).

Our rape statistics may seem impressive compared to a war torn far away land but that is because there is a focus on recording those cases because history (and perhaps racism too). Over here, we ensure they never speak of it. As long as we keep pointing the finger over there, the entitled of this island will continue to rape women and children (also men). Through their silence they become detached and cold from the hurt. The effect on wider society deepens; the war of the sexes will never end.

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S is for Social Justice Warriors

Illusion – Bloody do-gooders, what’s in it for them? They’re just a bunch of narcissistic, fame hungry whiny little nobodies. So your dad died and then you broke your back and your home was repossessed, happened to me and you don’t see me complaining do ya? Bring back National Service. A good clip round the ear never did me any harm. I do the same to my kids and they never put a foot out of line. That’s how you get respect. You don’t bleat on about making the world a better place; you shut up, get your head down, pay your way. Bring back hanging. Got no time for attention seekers and lily livered little whinge bags. Grow some balls.

Reality – Do-gooders as a word has always confused me (to do good is a good thing?) It suggests meddling and getting involved in things which shouldn’t concern anyone else. On the contrary we get involved because we are all human and what happens to one of us could happen to us all. It requires only a little empathy and compassion for even the things you don’t understand, but can in some way relate to the pain others are feeling. Doing good is humbling. It is the ones causing the pain that cannot abide by our attempts to change the status quo. The rapists, misogynists, abusers and narcissists; those who won’t be silenced by anyone, not even victims of cruelty; they must man up or switch off. For as long as we breathe, we will point out the unfair systems of oppression that hurt the ones at the bottom and make responsible the ones pushing down on them for laffs.

T is for TERFs Illusion – This term is used as a slur to make women feel inferior by men who are pretending to be women. This is patriarchy on steroids and the worse part of it is they’ve a load of women born women supporting them, like the ‘fun fems’ they are. They say that we are divisive or that we are leaving them out, actually, it is they who’ve ostracised and othered us. We are being excluded.

Reality –Terf is merely an acronym for trans-exclusionary radical feminists which, as the name suggests, means they are radical feminists who exclude trans people. That’s all, really.

U is for (Left) Unity

Illusion – Intersectionalists have ruined The Left with their bizarre identity politics, a consequence of capitalism and self-interest. It’s not like the good old days when were able to unite on the important factors and get things done. Labour may not be the working class party of our parent’s era but they still represent the proletariat and if we don’t get behind them then we get the government we deserve. Incidentally, that would be UKIP (which also begins with U).

Reality – UKIP have grown rapidly BECAUSE of the fact that white working classes of Britain do not feel adequately represented by Blue Labour. The worker’s party is made up of public school educated toffs entirely disconnected from the people they traditionally appeal to. There is no Right or Left in parliament, there are only rich white men. This trend continues with our rich and famous lefties; people like Billy Bragg who’s about as Left as my right elbow. They talk the talk but goosestep all over your urban projects.

V is for Voting

Illusion – We operate a democracy here which means freedom and liberty in a way it just doesn’t abroad, for example, in Afghanistan which is why we must give foreigners democracy whenever the opportunity arises. How else can people expect for their views to be heard and society to change for the better if they do not exercise their right to vote? It is political apathy that is the scourge of modern times, when those with extremist views are allowed a platform because moderates cannot be bothered to put a cross next to their name. People died for your right to vote.

Reality – It’s simple, vote Tory if you inherit a lot of wealth you don’t want the state to get its hands on. Vote Labour if you’re a worker of any class despite the fact they take home salaries that would take a decade for you to earn yourself, and of course the Liberal Democrats if you don’t want to take sides. Ignore the Greens, they’re just there for decoration and don’t worry about any of the Nazi parties, they’ve never been voted in before, it’s just posturing.

It doesn’t matter which party we vote for over here, rich white men will always occupy those seats of power. Rich white men who are only chasing votes and would slander their own grandmother in the same way they’ve scapegoated immigrants.

W is for White (Feminism, Narrative, Supremacy, Tears)

Illusion – White people have dominated the world for a reason; we’re just better in every respect. We’ve produced the best science, our economies are the strongest in the world and we are more attractive than people who are not white. The fact that they refuse to recognise this is preposterous and we’ll beat some sense into them if needs be. We gave the world capitalism, where would they all be without mobile phones and fashion? Obviously this means we also do the best feminism and any criticisms of our praxis are borne from jealousy at being inadequate or self-interest. We cry because nobody thinks about how we might be feeling, it’s hard being right about everything.

What’s the point of doing anything for these ungrateful non-whites if they throw it back in our faces all the time? So my ancestors gave your ancestors a hard time.. It’s not my fault, is it?

Reality – It would be nice to let go of the past and move on but that’s hardly an option when the past haunts us in the present. White people have not stopped enslaving non-white people; they just call it something else. They would have us believe success is the reward for anyone willing to put in the time and effort but only we know, from a lifetime’s experience that the opportunities are few and far between and intelligence and diligence do not go as far when your skin is the wrong colour, when your name has more syllables than white people can pronounce.

We change our names, we eat their food, we listen to their music and we learn all of their words better than most of their natives and yet, still, we can be abused in the street, at work and online with a single word (if we’re lucky) that brings back the centuries of subjugation at the mercy of our colonial masters. We feel the pain of our great grandparents who had even less of a voice than we do now. This infuriates us so we bash back but in doing so we are told we brought it on ourselves.

There is no recourse to safety for non-white people who object to the kyriarchal controls white society places on us. They seem to think that our defiance is indicative of a sinister plot to take over the white peoples in the same way they incarcerated us. This in itself is an odious allegation, being as we are fighting for the basic recognition of our humanity, nothing more. We just don’t do stoic like the great whites; our anger is raw from pain, not insane and uncivilised. When we cry, they mock us.

X is for Xenophobia

Illusion – When Brits are abroad on holiday, they’re reminded of what true patriotism is about, when all the other countries display their flags proudly and yet, here at home, you can’t wrap your house in the St George’s Cross without someone calling you a racist. Of all the nations in this world we should have the privilege of celebrating our national identity. We are after all better at sport than say, France. We smell better for a start. Don’t even get me started on the foods some of these people eat. Have you seen the lengths the Chinese will go to for a bit of meat?

I’ll tell you, I wouldn’t be anything else but British, we are somewhat a superior breed.

Reality – The St George’s cross is tainted by a past that is splattered with the blood of all the peoples raped and pillaged by the ancestors of the white people we challenge today. It reminds us that the people still holding those flags proudly have the same intentions for us as they did then, that they are proud of their murderous history and that they have no shame when they thrust it in our faces at every conceivable opportunity. The Empire left a dark stain on the nations’ flag, one that cannot be white washed even if they re-write history and frame brutal slaughter and looting as a positive thing for whites that enriched their lives, monetarily and culturally (leaving out the bit where it was to the detriment of the rest of us). fash Y is for You

Illusion – You are born in an NHS hospital, your birth will be registered with your local council. You have a place in a local school in your catchment area and attendance is mandatory from age 5. You will be assessed and graded at regular intervals for the course of your state funded education and if you study hard and put in the extra time, keep your head down as a model pupil and citizen, one day you’ll be rich and well-travelled and satisfied.

The onus is on YOU to shape your future though, don’t expect any hand-outs. If you are not very successful in life it is because you simply do not make the grade and trying to suggest it is anything but slovenliness you have no one to blame for but yourself, is nonsense and a cop out from someone who is not used to taking responsibility for themselves.

Reality – You were born an organism, not yet a person. Without your prior knowledge and consent you were signed up to a system you couldn’t yet understand. You went along with it knowing nothing else and for a long while believed everything you were told about the ways of the world. You swallowed the idea of YOU as a person in a wider society that boasted people with more talent, more grace and beauty than you could ever have wished for. Of course those people should be rewarded for their superiority but with time you started to resent the inferiority that came with this positioning. It suddenly dawned on you that if you’d had the same money, the same access to education and resources as those with inherited wealth, you’d have probably achieved a whole lot more than they did. You start to resent the demands society puts on you to perform when increasingly, you feel less and less like the person they say you are. With these thoughts, your whole persona changes and you even look different in the mirror. You’d never noticed the smoothness of your skin before or the contrast of your dark hair against your skin.

At first it upset you when people wrote you off as an academic who was just throwing fancy words around for kudos, not actually wanting to affect social change. Then you realised they thought you were educated beyond degree level when in fact you left school aged 16. Suddenly you realise they are afraid of YOU because you understand true liberation and you didn’t have to set foot in a posh university to learn about it. This makes you unpredictable. This makes you powerful.

This is why they go out of their way to abuse you.

Z is for Zionism A subject I do not feel I can actually comment on (in light of recent events). I will however blame everything on the BBC. Please feel free to comment with your suggestions.

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Universal Declaration of Human Rights

You’re not born to jump through hoops in order to prove your humanity, you are born human. Your rights as a human are non negotiable. If you take away human rights, it dehumanises you. What kind of nation wants to strip people of their birthright? Where does that road lead? Learn your rights and refuse to give them up.

Article 1

All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.

Article 2

Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status. Furthermore, no distinction shall be made on the basis of the political, jurisdictional or international status of the country or territory to which a person belongs, whether it be independent, trust, non-self-governing or under any other limitation of sovereignty.

Article 3

Everyone has the right to life, liberty and security of person.

Article 4

No one shall be held in slavery or servitude; slavery and the slave trade shall be prohibited in all their forms.

Article 5

No one shall be subjected to torture or to cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.

Article 6

Everyone has the right to recognition everywhere as a person before the law.

Article 7

All are equal before the law and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law. All are entitled to equal protection against any discrimination in violation of this Declaration and against any incitement to such discrimination.

Article 8

Everyone has the right to an effective remedy by the competent national tribunals for acts violating the fundamental rights granted him by the constitution or by law.

Article 9

No one shall be subjected to arbitrary arrest, detention or exile.

Article 10

Everyone is entitled in full equality to a fair and public hearing by an independent and impartial tribunal, in the determination of his rights and obligations and of any criminal charge against him.

Article 11

(1) Everyone charged with a penal offence has the right to be presumed innocent until proved guilty according to law in a public trial at which he has had all the guarantees necessary for his defence.

(2) No one shall be held guilty of any penal offence on account of any act or omission which did not constitute a penal offence, under national or international law, at the time when it was committed. Nor shall a heavier penalty be imposed than the one that was applicable at the time the penal offence was committed.

Article 12

No one shall be subjected to arbitrary interference with his privacy, family, home or correspondence, nor to attacks upon his honour and reputation. Everyone has the right to the protection of the law against such interference or attacks.

Article 13

(1) Everyone has the right to freedom of movement and residence within the borders of each state.

(2) Everyone has the right to leave any country, including his own, and to return to his country.

Article 14

(1) Everyone has the right to seek and to enjoy in other countries asylum from persecution.

(2) This right may not be invoked in the case of prosecutions genuinely arising from non-political crimes or from acts contrary to the purposes and principles of the United Nations.

Article 15

(1) Everyone has the right to a nationality.

(2) No one shall be arbitrarily deprived of his nationality nor denied the right to change his nationality.

Article 16.

(1) Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution.

(2) Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.

(3) The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the State.

Article 17

(1) Everyone has the right to own property alone as well as in association with others.

(2) No one shall be arbitrarily deprived of his property.

 

Article 18

Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion; this right includes freedom to change his religion or belief, and freedom, either alone or in community with others and in public or private, to manifest his religion or belief in teaching, practice, worship and observance.

Article 19

Everyone has the right to freedom of opinion and expression; this right includes freedom to hold opinions without interference and to seek, receive and impart information and ideas through any media and regardless of frontiers.

Article 20

(1) Everyone has the right to freedom of peaceful assembly and association.

(2) No one may be compelled to belong to an association.

Article 21

(1) Everyone has the right to take part in the government of his country, directly or through freely chosen representatives.

(2) Everyone has the right of equal access to public service in his country.

(3) The will of the people shall be the basis of the authority of government; this will shall be expressed in periodic and genuine elections which shall be by universal and equal suffrage and shall be held by secret vote or by equivalent free voting procedures.

Article 22

Everyone, as a member of society, has the right to social security and is entitled to realization, through national effort and international co-operation and in accordance with the organization and resources of each State, of the economic, social and cultural rights indispensable for his dignity and the free development of his personality.

Article 23

(1) Everyone has the right to work, to free choice of employment, to just and favourable conditions of work and to protection against unemployment.

(2) Everyone, without any discrimination, has the right to equal pay for equal work.

(3) Everyone who works has the right to just and favourable remuneration ensuring for himself and his family an existence worthy of human dignity, and supplemented, if necessary, by other means of social protection.

(4) Everyone has the right to form and to join trade unions for the protection of his interests.

Article 24

Everyone has the right to rest and leisure, including reasonable limitation of working hours and periodic holidays with pay.

Article 25

(1) Everyone has the right to a standard of living adequate for the health and well-being of himself and of his family, including food, clothing, housing and medical care and necessary social services, and the right to security in the event of unemployment, sickness, disability, widowhood, old age or other lack of livelihood in circumstances beyond his control.

(2) Motherhood and childhood are entitled to special care and assistance. All children, whether born in or out of wedlock, shall enjoy the same social protection.

Article 26

(1) Everyone has the right to education. Education shall be free, at least in the elementary and fundamental stages. Elementary education shall be compulsory. Technical and professional education shall be made generally available and higher education shall be equally accessible to all on the basis of merit.

(2) Education shall be directed to the full development of the human personality and to the strengthening of respect for human rights and fundamental freedoms. It shall promote understanding, tolerance and friendship among all nations, racial or religious groups, and shall further the activities of the United Nations for the maintenance of peace.

(3) Parents have a prior right to choose the kind of education that shall be given to their children.

Article 27

(1) Everyone has the right freely to participate in the cultural life of the community, to enjoy the arts and to share in scientific advancement and its benefits.

(2) Everyone has the right to the protection of the moral and material interests resulting from any scientific, literary or artistic production of which he is the author.

Article 28

Everyone is entitled to a social and international order in which the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration can be fully realized.

Article 29

(1) Everyone has duties to the community in which alone the free and full development of his personality is possible.

(2) In the exercise of his rights and freedoms, everyone shall be subject only to such limitations as are determined by law solely for the purpose of securing due recognition and respect for the rights and freedoms of others and of meeting the just requirements of morality, public order and the general welfare in a democratic society.

(3) These rights and freedoms may in no case be exercised contrary to the purposes and principles of the United Nations.

Article 30

Nothing in this Declaration may be interpreted as implying for any State, group or person any right to engage in any activity or to perform any act aimed at the destruction of any of the rights and freedoms set forth herein.

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I have been victimised

Just deactivated my Twitter account again. I made a remark about how I was targeted with racist spam in a reaction to the spamming of various women online for the last few hours and very soon after I started getting them again. That’s all I know really.

I’ve deactivated not because I want to but because I’ve been told that’s the way to prove you’re intimidated by racists and stalkers and misogynists who want women off the internet. There’s no shame for me in admitting I’ve hit my racial slur limit for the time being. I want to function as humans do, obviously, without the echoes haunting me. I want to be a good friend and a good sister and aunt and carer for my animals. Being abused day in day out with no recourse to safety makes it impossible for me to nurture these relationships because hyper vigilance is exhausting and to be as honest as I can, my real life is in crisis for many reasons right now.

I’m already confined to these four walls for probably 6 days a week, only then stepping out with other people but that’s ok, I don’t want to be out there with the rest of you. Twitter has been invaluable for me to get my message out there and I feel like I need to remind people what that message is and always has been and ask why it is that I am the one who has to leave?

I want to end patriarchal violence. I want you to question every little thing you do and how it impacts on the people around you. I’m not talking to the depraved ones who get off on suffering, I’m sorry they weren’t shown empathy but everyone has a sliding doors moment, where they make the decision to protect themselves or do the right thing (guess which one I chose?) and these sickos chose themselves cos that’s all that matters to them. They can all rot in hell.

The police said there was nothing they could do for me and the person(s) targeting me knows this. They’ve been coming back to mock me, repeatedly victimising me and the cops are loving it (see last blog post’s comments). Well, you’ve got your victim now. Thank you for leaving me in a position where I am without the support I need from people who, ironically, think about others first instead of this bullshit self-serving ‘identity politics’ thing they’ve tarred us with. It’s never been about the self but humbling ourselves and recognising how we have more than others and to be grateful for that and not use it to whip oppressed people (for now we will whip you back). These people are not even people in my mind, they’re demonic. They exist only to goad and cause suffering. I want them all to die painfully without anyone there to support them, have them face their achievements on their deathbeds. Let them suffer the same way, show them the same lack of compassion. You think I was born feeling this way about people, cold and malicious, or did I learn it from the degenerates who taught me that was just the way of the world?

I am not sure how far away I am from giving everything up for good. I know that I can’t and yet, every time I am targeted in this way, by the rich and famous and political (and the mere plebs) I feel myself get a step closer. This world does not care about me so why should I care about it?

Twitter, I’m not going to report to you cos sometimes it’s just not possible. I don’t know who is harassing me and even if I did, it’s not like you give a shit.

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Justice is for white people

This is the response I got from West Midlands police after I asked them to escalate the complaint to superiors. I called the police to help me. They didn’t help me. Instead they gave me a warning.

I knew when I was raped that I could not go to the police because they’d probably say I deserved it for inviting the rapists back. It doesn’t matter that they were just friends when I let them into my home and an entirely normal thing to do when you trust people (who are friends) but in the context of a rape investigation, it’s almost like the purpose of the police is to discredit victims, especially when they are female and almost certainly when they are not white.

The police don’t give a shit about non-white women; I knew this from my work. They don’t much care for white working class women either but they still have the edge over poor brown women. The police can communicate better with people who speak their language, not just spoken but also cultural and unspoken, in the way they’ve been taught to react to things, like, how to be a worthy victim. Whether they self-identify as racist or not, suggesting that non-white perpetrators of violence against women are entitled to that power and control because their religious beliefs are protected by law allegedly and then shrugging as if to say “what can you do with these savages?” IS racist because if they did a little research, picked up a book or two, they’d realise violence against any person who is not your physical match is forbidden. It is racism that allows these people to turn a blind eye and in some cases gleefully abandon vulnerable people because of their immigration status.  This is something I learnt through my work, that the police are inherently racist and sexist.

I don’t like the police. I don’t care if they don’t like me either. I just want to know why I spent my whole life believing racism was illegal and that this meant something could be done about it. Also I know how serious (also illegal) threats to kill are because of the work I have done in the past, yet the police expect me to believe they cannot do anything about the abuse I face because Twitter won’t do something for them. How did they make Twitter oblige when it was the blonde middle class Caroline Criado Perez with her media contacts who was being targeted? She was in all the papers, her face flustered from the stress of being a woman on the internet and we learnt she was clinically depressed from the ordeal. I have CPTSD. I am on medication for mental and physical disabilities. I often have thoughts around suicide and yet the police have dismissed the threats and abuse numerous people subjected to me, even though there was money missing from my bank account.

(TW threats/racism)

“I will slit your throat and hang you upside down bitch, don’t tempt me”

“People are going to hammer you”

“Please shut the fuck up or I will murder you”

“Please shut up you paki”

“If you don’t like Britain go back to your own country you ungrateful whore”

“…You stupid, laughable cry-baby cunt”

“Begging for money on your blog I see…typical Paki girl”

“Proof you can’t be friends with a Paki”

“I’m going to kill you”

“Hahaha you ugly little slag, lol”

“I’m gonna slice you up bitch”

“I’m gonna cut you up”

“Please just drown yourself now please. Still gonna kill you”

If saying “kill all men” is incitement to murder than what is this^ person doing to me? Or the various search terms actually telling me to kill myself? They’re not saying all people should do this, this is a direct threat aimed at me, Sam Ambreen (not all women of colour). No one else, just me. CPTSD makes you hyper vigilant because you feel like you’re going to die most of the time. In the balance of harm, how can West Midlands police have the audacity to follow up a refusal to support me with a warning that I am committing a criminal offence and that they don’t believe me or cannot defend me for saying a few words (regarding 4 billion strange men)?

I’m not sorry that I cannot play the right sort of victim for you. The police are notorious for their inconsistency when it comes to believing victims. If you didn’t fight back, why not, did you on some level enjoy it or give them the impression you were consenting? If you did fight back, well, you’re clearly not a victim and can take care of yourself. In fact now you’re the problem because you’re hostile and a loose cannon. Well, he’s the one with all the scratches on his face (self-defence is only an option if you’re white and middle class, as we reminded Criado Perez only a few days ago).

I cannot fight back; I must leave the internet if things are that bad otherwise I haven’t the right to complain. Helpful advice from the police who are definitely not trying to silence me, say because of my political beliefs and utter distrust of the police. I didn’t want to go to them; I was encouraged to do so by people on Twitter who were horrified at the stream of nastiness I was subjected to. I wasn’t confident they’d do anything but I did not expect to be reminded of how I may be breaking the law for reacting to abuses perpetrated against me.

I don’t want to be in this country. It’s not safe. There is no help here for people like me, only more violence in future. I have nothing positive to say about any of my experiences with the authorities (or the majority of white people). I get it ok, you don’t like me because I can see you’re looking down on me and I know that I’m above that so you do your best to punch down and push me into a corner where no one can hear me. This only means I will keep screaming until the opportunity presents itself to leave this living nightmare. I know my worth (and the law) and you don’t get to call it.

If I now wished global warming would hurry up and drown this tiny island, would you consider that incitement to an act of God?

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Twitter Death Threats are Tasteful and Decent

Kill all men. 3 words that erased all the times I was raped, sexually assaulted and beaten by men. These 3 words justify the death threats against me. In saying these words, I have confirmed that I am just as bad as the entitled men and any report I make of abusive behaviour against me is invalid.

I have just finished speaking to the police who called to update me with regards numerous threats to kill and the reams of racist abuse I have been subjected to on Twitter. They advised that Twitter, being based in California refuse to provide British law enforcement officers with any information even in cases where there are threats to kill because their laws around taste and decency differ from ours. Apparently they only concede for serious crimes like murder (not threats to murder).

I want to know how the Metropolitan police were able to investigate the abuse aimed at Twitter activist Caroline Criado Perez (and Stella Creasy) and were able to convince Twitter that the words used to threaten her did breach taste and decency standards even though she is also in the UK (like me). I asked the officer who called me (from West Midlands Police) why this disparity between activists on Twitter when we’re all women receiving death threats and whether she could blame me for thinking it is rooted in structural racism? She maintained that she was just passing on the message from their techie guy and it had nothing to do with race, more that Twitter was refusing to comply. She was also confused because they said it was about protecting their users from opponents of free speech and that surely this protection should be extended to me too, also one of their users.

Why would it though? The internet is awash with rapists and their apologists, misogynists who fantasise about murdering and humiliating women (and probably do in their relationships) and the overall response has been amusing for them. Social networking sites like Facebook will delete an image of a woman breastfeeding a hungry baby because it breaches standards of taste and decency (and sets them apart as somehow enlightened – Darwin award please – among the mammals) yet raging racists like Britain First get a free pass. Murdering entitled scum from the states get a shrine devoted to worshiping male power. Twitter hasn’t responded to the two tickets I got from them acknowledging I’d made complaints regarding gendered abuse and DEATH THREATS but why would they?

In a world where 50 women have been murdered by men this year in this country alone, am I really surprised that gendered abuse is still being ignored by the men in power? The kind of world where the reaction to homicide perpetrated because male entitlement is one of praise and in support of male privilege, not condemnation of the kind of society that allows sick individuals like these to thrive. In a society where rape victims are asked what they did to provoke a rapist into raping them, am I surprised that the 3 words I have at my disposal to empower me when I’m feeling weak (but angry still) are considered equally harmful to the sexual abuse I have been subjected to my whole life (the experiences I have on twitter being an extension to a collage my brain has collated over the years)?

Of course I’m not. This doesn’t change the physiological effects of silencing and legitimisation of abuse has on me. I had a panic attack and had to cut the call short. This was after I explained that I would not be deleting my online profiles because I will not let them succeed in their campaigns to silence me. I won’t let them have the satisfaction and to insist I am complicit in abuse against me if I do not is victim blaming, nothing more or less. It’s not like I have a choice, I do the things I do so that the world is a safer place, one that I can be a part of. Unfortunately this whole incident has served to remind me that I can’t expect this and that attempts to change the status quo will be met with reinforcements from the oppressors.

I’ve advised the police I would like for this complaint to be escalated to their superiors and to find out how it was possible that 2 people were sent to prison for similar offences against a blonde woman.

I’ll let you know how that goes.